If I Should Marry Iyabo...(1)

 If you see how women demand for equal rights and opportunities; you will not hesitate to dodge any missile that comes your direction, neither will you wait for an advise to tactically avoid their verbal venom and assault. Nevertheless women's quest for equal opportunities have been gradually granted, and they have also been gradually given opportunities to serve as well as an opportunities to be baptized into the sacred world of Scope, Scam, 419. Whatever language you intent to apply the result oriented is imperfection, relatively that is corruption.
As gradual as it takes, women have so quickly become so vested with the act of what their male counterparts have done. Men have pushed cocaine, women do; men preach, women do; men marry many women, women also marry many men too; men steal, women do; men fire at will, women do; men corrupt absolutely, women also corrupt recklessly absolutely. All these without respecting constituting authority, they (women) do it with utmost perfection; as they claim to be good performers than men, so they have wittingly out do the men, as naturally as they are better than men.
Now, all those atrocities men have committed, women have over the years done better and graduated to the best position. They have achieved opportunities and have used it complimentarily at least to commensurate the lost years they were cheated. Men have abused the law; women have done it better, with impunity. Irked by the conduct of the Iyabo, so much that I am tempted to write on issue that concern this former famous family of the Nation. Notwithstanding her social standing. This Iyabo has nothing that depict a moral sanity, her conduct has further painted womenfolk with curry black, except few that there upbringing really distinguish them. Well, so much to say about her already scandalized behaviour.
Given the antecedent of her background, one may have an impression about her as lose, spoilt or pampered child. But, but, but, traditionally or religiously, a position of first child demand absolute humility and extra-ordinary sacrifice from the occupant of the position before could get it right. I reserve further comment concerning that area; digging out deeply other causes could contribute to her unfounded and uncompromising behaviour. Still in doubt, if the 'But' have not gotten remnant of family behavioural pattern of like “Father like daughter”. How time changes that it is now a daughter instead of the widely popular son prefix. Thank God, the table has tilted to the women's side. It is on that premise that I remind women how they have been complaining about women equality, but lost it each time they get it, even in their marital homes.
Basically, on this note I will tell Iyabo that in marriage there is inflation and devaluation, that value keeps going down and down for men. You know why? I will tell her that a woman become less and less valuable as she grows older. I will tell her that men don't age as women do. Afterall can you imagine seventy-year-old brood being able to con a twenty-year-old kid? Very few women at that age have the economic, and physical power to buy a youth neither for them nor with stand the stress involved. Based on that I will tell her that I will negotiate reasons I have to marry her either for her wealth or parental background. Because, inspite of her academic background, I may have to consider total accepting her bordering on physique too what I actually emphasize here center on the facial appearance or otherwise. The “otherwise” in this context may connote, in a downloading statement statistical look, everything specifically attributing to figure eight formula. Those feature that keep a man indoors. Mine is Fine Babe, Fine pay; ugly Babe, ugly pay; period! To avoid unsavoury marriage to Iyabo, considering her socially, morally, politically, religiously and even culturally. Her conduct could be liken to the story of the Unromantic Generation of BRUCE WEBER, in which he discussed the way in which logic has triumphed over passion in modern times: We won't have need to find out if we are compatible, not much time together to confirm our relationship, provided there is wealth and influence in between. I will tell her that it is all about the immediate gratification. Of course I may be forced to do this because according to KIN HUBBARD “It is pretty hard to tell what does bring happiness mine in cap (probably anymore) since poverty and wealth have failed. Iyabo from a rich family has failed womenhood, failed the entire citizens of this country, and failed those who so entrusted her with a position of authority. If wealth has failed in the quest of looking for more wealth, how then will poverty be classified?
Evaluating those things that constitute the failure of the Iyabos. I will not fail either to consult an oracle to ascertain if coaxing her to be born again will help, not being born against syndrome, please. I prefer an oracle because I know in my would be Father inlaws real background it is a taboo to do otherwise without a belief in the efficacy of Sangos, I support the idea at least, let they white colonialists go with their hypocritic Western religion/culture mentality. Now, back to my original consultation of oracle, it will help find out her state of mind, if she is really a man woman or a woman man in Pretext. Again to confirm if she will accept to let go those spirit that hunt the family day and Night or if the family is completely willing to let her become a woman she suppose to be. And that means being delivered totally from the family's noted and persistent MISCHIEF. Categorically, this mischief could be another middle name of the former numero uno family, from father to daughter, what a wrong pass instead to men, but wickedly to a woman. Though partially, it is on a sympathetic note that the mud has spread over to the Gbengas, with the father being alleged of tasting his son wife forbidden food, whether True or False, it is an irony of fates and the damage have been done still on the family OBJ's. It is one of the dilemmas that will bolden me to tell her that marriage to her have to be sacrosanct from all her family in signia and symbol, otherwise, no show. I know some like it hot, some like it cold; I like mine extremely not to cool, extremely not too hot. But rather to stand the test of time, how then will I cope with a woman with a family of exuberance behaviours, outrageously, traditionally and religiously ridiculous? I will coax her to buy into my thinking to fit into our custom and culture immediately if there is none available any longer in her own land.
As well as encourage her learn faster how to respect what ought to be respected, not only rule of law and due process, but also the Elders who can enact these laws, and the supreme giver of the universal law, that is GOD. For I will let her know that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
When one fears God, will definitely respect Elders and humanity. I will not fail to politely tutor her that her behaviour since as a one-time political office holder has made her a disgrace to womanhood. Those things she did like scaling of fence, in an attempt to escape the long arm of the law is a shame not only to the already shamed family but also in extension to women, youths and old. I will play a fatherly role and give her attention in case she lacked one as a child. What a pity! I will disclose one thing to her that in my area, Ibibio stock specifically, I learnt from the Elders that a woman is supposed, “to know when to apply the brake”. If interested to know more, please consult an Elder in your locality.
All what I am saying is that paying Bride Price may not all together help put her under legal jurisdiction of marriage. Quite certain her family could rescue her from such a situation by refunding the same, and that may be a reason I make her my second wife to avoid her victimizing her rival. Marrying her as a first wife could jeopardize chances of being a very happy husband. Giving her unwarranted opportunities will be letting her be exposed to our cultural norms of do's and don'ts, that will let her also understand universally recognized wrong of ill activities, rudish and brutish, rigid moral standard. Likewise, will generally try everything to let her know the fundamental prerequisite if we are practicing real marriage. If she decides giving up her unproportionate behaviours, but I doubt if I will grant the relationship to have a product (child). It could be a heart-breaking relationship if you don't know how to manage and tame out the family spirit from her. I will try to make her feel the ecclesiastical law of mankind, in case she had broken from the dictates of her family and tradition. Furthermore, I may also seek assistance of seers, prophets and visionary etc to tell her what matrimonial home and duties is all about. Despite her academic qualification or elevation in the society, I will tolerate to manage her as property that deserve a right but automatically know who is the owner.